My parents & only sibling cut me off over 20 years ago because I would not put up with the abuse from a malignant narcissist mother & violent father. I was mom’s “favorite” & my sister was dad’s - like we were dolls. The best thing that ever happened was them shunning me. I never would have cut ties on my own. I no longer have to deal with their financial or medical issues, I don’t waste precious vacation days visiting them & I won’t have to pay for or attend their funerals. I already spent that money on therapy to try to fix the damage they purposely inflicted. My sister didn’t abuse me, but she sides with them & went along to get along. I don’t have ill will toward her - I just hope she wakes up & dumps them, too. Or she’ll have to pay the funeral expenses & deal with their hoarded out house. If they ever try to reach out, I will block them.
Yes. That makes total sense. I heard from an aunt that my educated, lifelong-Democratic-voting parents went maga in 2015. Crazy. My mom was loudly feminist when I knew her. Maybe she was attracted to the malignant narcissism of Hillary’s opponent? At least she raised me atheist & told me almost daily, “don’t have kids, it’ll ruin your life, you’ll never have a career.” Living solo & child-free has been incredibly satisfying and I can afford to retire early & travel.
Thank you - great topic. And yes, it is nice to have the recording. Provides a little more depth to what’s being expressed.
My parents & only sibling cut me off over 20 years ago because I would not put up with the abuse from a malignant narcissist mother & violent father. I was mom’s “favorite” & my sister was dad’s - like we were dolls. The best thing that ever happened was them shunning me. I never would have cut ties on my own. I no longer have to deal with their financial or medical issues, I don’t waste precious vacation days visiting them & I won’t have to pay for or attend their funerals. I already spent that money on therapy to try to fix the damage they purposely inflicted. My sister didn’t abuse me, but she sides with them & went along to get along. I don’t have ill will toward her - I just hope she wakes up & dumps them, too. Or she’ll have to pay the funeral expenses & deal with their hoarded out house. If they ever try to reach out, I will block them.
Thanks for sharing. It’s sadly very common to end up estranged from a sibling due to parental estrangement.
Yes. That makes total sense. I heard from an aunt that my educated, lifelong-Democratic-voting parents went maga in 2015. Crazy. My mom was loudly feminist when I knew her. Maybe she was attracted to the malignant narcissism of Hillary’s opponent? At least she raised me atheist & told me almost daily, “don’t have kids, it’ll ruin your life, you’ll never have a career.” Living solo & child-free has been incredibly satisfying and I can afford to retire early & travel.
Narcissistic parents often triangulate their children, making it impossible for the siblings to maintain a healthy relationship.